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1. Write A Love Letter When was the last time you wrote a love letter to your significant other? It might sound old school, but it’s still romantic Take your time putting into words how you truly feel and putting it to pen and paper and you might just get some happy tears. 2. Send A Good Morning Text Even if they slept next to you last night, send them a “Good Morning Beautiful” kind of text to start their day off right. This personal gesture of life might be simple but it goes a long way. 3. Create A Mixed Tape The technology may have changed, but the thought behind it has not.  Gather your favorite songs that remind you of that special someone and create the perfect playlist to share with them. 4. Make Them Dinner You don’t have to be a chef to whip a good meal. Check out recipes online and cook up a storm. This is a great one for someone who’s significant other cooks every night.  Surprising them with dinner will definitely put a smile on their face. 5. Serve Them Breakfast...

1. History of Abuse In The Relationship This is one of the most common signs, yet the most overlooked. Chances are high that a person who is used to abusing you can end up taking your life. Unfortunately many stay hoping the partner will change, while in actual fact, they just get worse. 2. Suicidal Partner Threats to commit suicide is a red flag, an indicator that such a person could go on to seriously harm or kill his partner and those most close. Men commit most of the homicide-suicide cases. Most victims are women and children. Therefore it is imperative that women understand the nature and gravity of the situation and seek help. 3. They Want To Seek Revenge​ Some people are generally charming, but if you cross them, you’ll know why they don’t keep people around for too long. If they feel they’ve been betrayed or lied to, they will go to sometimes extreme lengths seeking revenge. Be aware. 4. You Fight Dirty Couples fight, even the happiest ones, it just comes with the relationship...

6. When “We” Becomes “Me” Has your partner made a decision without even considering you or your feelings? Suddenly date night is canceled and work is more of a priority than you are. Or he decides to hang out with his friends all weekend and completely ignores you. Things come up in life, but, if this becomes a pattern, understand there is something else taking priority. 7. You Never Mention The Future If you and your loved one never talk about anything that may happen more than a month into the future, then you may be avoiding it because you can’t imagine being with your significant other for much longer. Whether you’re the one feeling this way, or you’re noticing that your partner feels this way, it’s just a sign to call it quits. If you can’t picture the future together, there’s no point in staying in the present. 8. Your Partner Constantly Threatens To Leave No matter the argument or fight, you disagree with your partner and they respond threatening you with a breakup, it’s time to...

  10 Signs It’s Time To Call It Quits In Your Relationship. Calling it quits is easier when it was never love. Yet, even then many of us find it difficult to let go. It’s never more difficult, however, than when the person you’re considering giving up on is someone you did love. Maybe still do love. Here are 10 signs its time you put yourself first. 1. Lack Of Respect Respect is the foundation of every good relationship, romantic or other. Both of you deserve to be treated with love, compassion, and understanding. You’re both equals. If it’s clear that he or she doesn’t see you as such, then you need to get out of there as soon as possible. 2. No Forgiveness If your partner refuses to forgive and won’t work on the relationship over a period of time, it could be time to walk away. The communication may have broken down over the years, and now it seems a mess. Try to enlist a mediator, to help communicate, if not this may be the end if both parties can’t meet in the middle. 3. Lack O...

5. Avoid Rebound Relationships Often people will quickly enter a new relationship following a breakup. Rebounding is not always a good idea. When you enter into a relationship too soon after a break up, you may be masking your negative emotions with the excitement of a new relationship. If that new relationship does not work out, you will deal with the pain of two breakups at once. Consider remaining single until you have fully processed your emotions and gotten over the breakup. 6. Take Some Time To Grief The end of a relationship can leave a big hole in your heart, which may require a significant grieving period. Make sure that you give yourself permission to grieve this loss and experience the pain that it causes. Otherwise, it may take longer for you to feel better and move on. Let yourself cry, scream, yell, or whatever you need to do to get your negative emotions out. 7. Eat Clean, Calming Foods While consuming too much sugar or refined carbs can release cortisol and amplify the ...

10 Mature Ways To Handle A Breakup. This is one of the most painful experiences one can go through, more so when you are the one getting dumped. A lot of people have managed to move on and have better lives, and so can you. Find ways to deal with a breakup like the mature person you are from the tips below. 1. Don’t Neglect Yourself In the days and weeks following a breakup, it’s more important than ever to practice self-care and self-compassion and not to give in to the rom-com clichés of post-breakup life. It might be tempting to launch headfirst into unhealthy eating, drinking, or sleeping habits when you are going through a breakup, but it’s actually the perfect time to double down on healthy practices. 2. Avoid Posting The Details On Social Media At this stage Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Tumblr are not your friends. Live your lifelike it’s golden, even if you are hurting. Airing your grievances on social media is not good for anyone, and it’ll be embarrassing later. Who’s gon...

Have you ever wanted to risk it all for a last chance at love with your ex? New 1Magic reality show One Night With My Ex is providing a platform to shoot your shot with an old flame. Debuting on April 19, the 13-episode show promises to have viewers on the edge of their seats as former lovers resolve mysteries of their lost love. Produced by Rapid Blue, the reunion on the show aims to give the heartbroken and scorned exes a final opportunity for closure, forgiveness or vindication. The reunion will play out over one night in an apartment setting with the hope for each couple being to get answers and healing. The show hopes to rekindle the lost love in some cases. "One Night With My Ex is a reality show about ordinary people in search for closure. It's about love, disappointment, heartache and second chances," explained Reneilwe Sema, director of local entertainment Channels at M-Net. "We believe it will resonate with all our viewers, but for different reasons." ...

Around one in 10 Japanese in their thirties has never had heterosexual sex and the number of adults with no sexual experience is increasing, according to a new study based on national survey data. Comparable data from other developed countries indicated that "Japanese adults tend to become sexually active later in life and that a substantially larger proportion remain heterosexually inexperienced into their thirties", the authors said. The research is based on data from seven rounds of the National Fertility Survey of Japan, carried out between 1987 and 2015, which is administered by a unit overseen by the Japanese health ministry. In 2015, 11.9 percent of women aged 30-34 and 12.7 percent of men in the same age group reported having had no heterosexual sexual experience, the data showed. In the 35-39 age bracket, the figures were 8.9 percent for women and 9.5 percent for men. In both age brackets, the number of self-reported virgins had increased by several percentage points...

Bonang Matheba has dismissed a suggestion that she should pack up her Champopo range and turn to God. Bonang has been collecting serious coins and scoring major deals with her House of BNG range, but one fan was not impressed. The follower took to Twitter over the weekend to claim they had prayed about B, and God had told her the star should stop producing alcohol. The fan then asked why B didn’t instead use her influence for good. I prayed about it and God says you need to bow before him and praise him publicly and stop producing alcohol. Why don’t you use your influence for good?” the user tweeted in a post that has since been deleted. B saw the post, because B sees everything, and then hit her with a one-two combo of “F*ck off” and a heart emoji. The user was undeterred and responded to whoever would listen, telling them B should sell off the last batch she is working on and then give up the game. Meanwhile, B was living her best life promoting the bottle and thanking those who had ...

10 Appropriate Ways To Behave On A First Date. First dates can be so tricky. Many get so nervous that they end up making a mess of things. Others on the other hand over impress and make fail to keep up in the long run. The following tips can help you get over the jitters of the first date with ease. 1. Be On Time Being late even with a valid excuse gives the impression that you don’t value the time the other person allotted for that date. Arrive on time, or better yet, a few minutes earlier. 2. Be Yourself The nerve-wracking preparation for a first date gives a tendency for people to overdo things in order to make a good impression. This often leads to things getting awkward during the actual date because people put up an act that doesn’t fit their usual self. 3. Be Calm Try not to overthink things. You need to calm down to avoid messing things up for yourself. Just let things run their natural course. This way, you find your “groove” and focus on the actual moment, not on what the oth...

10 Reasons Some Men Are Intimidated By Successful Women. We see more women assuming leadership roles, and earning more than some of their male counterparts. This has made it difficult for them to find love because some men can’t wrap their heads around having a woman who does not depend on them for anything. Find more reasons why independent women intimidate men below. 1. Inadequacy There’s an undue sense of falling short in men when they are not richer or  more successful than women. Several men can’t deal with being less successful than the women they’ll be with. It’s not right but it’s what happens. 2. Ego For some, it is an ego thing. To be not as rich or not as successful as the woman they’d date or be in a relationship with is unimaginable for them. Isn’t that some myopic way of viewing life and relationships? 3. Society It’s a societal belief that men need to be the breadwinners when it comes to career The pattern of relationships and marriages in the society for such a long...

1. He Doesn’t Open Up To You A guy who is cheating on his girl will hold back on opening up with the other woman. When it comes to sharing his feelings, his hopes, his dreams, and goals; he will shrug his shoulders, or maybe even ignore the questions entirely. He’s not looking to open up with you because honestly, he’s only out for one thing: a little bit of fun on the side. 2. His Past Is A Secret A guy who is hiding a wife or a girlfriend at home will give you a really shady story about his past that doesn’t make any sense. You can start by asking him when his last relationship ended. When a guy has secrets and many things to hide, he will try to create a faux-life that doesn’t even add up. Your job is to bust him in his lies. 3. You Have Never Been To His House When you are dating someone, it is pretty normal to be curious about their living arrangements. It’s just too bad this will never happen if the guy you’re dating is currently in a relationship with someone else. Especially if...

10 Tips On Getting Your Long-Term Partner To Propose. Many people dream of walking down the aisle with their dream partners. The only problem might be when the potential spouse shows no sign of wanting marriage. The following tips might help motivate them and eventually they will go down on one knee. 1. Be A Great Partner Everyone wants a perfect marriage mate. That is why a lot of people take time to commit. Let your partner see that they need you in this life thing.Make them see that they are helpless without you and your advice. Be that shoulder to lean on during their trying times. Who knows, they might put a ring on it before you know it. 2. Hang Out With Married Couples Spend holidays or go out occasionally with a few of your happily married friends. This is a great encouragement and motivation. Let your partner see how happy marital life can be. This will help them realize that they have nothing to fear, and that marriage is a beautiful union. 3. Give Them A Signal There are loa...

10 Ways To Make The Most Of Your Single Life. Many single people envy those in relationships. You don’t have to because single life on its own is a gift. The following 10 ways will help you make the most of your single life while you are still waiting on the perfect partner. 1. Learn How To Be On Your Own Being on your own can be a wonderful thing. Learn how to take care of yourself properly, such as how to cook and clean for yourself, how to keep your home clean, how to wash laundry, and how to manage your time. All of these skills will be invaluable to you both as a singleton, and as someone in a relationship. 2. Learn a New Skill Take the free time you might otherwise be spending with your significant other and learn a new skill! Whether you sign up for one-on-one singing lessons with a professional, or you learn online, learning a new skill will keep you busy and enrich your life. 3. Take Up a New Hobby Is there something you’ve been dying to try recently, like yoga or knitting? St...

For those whose bedroom problems might be too small or too big for the Chris Hani Baragwanath Hospital to care about, don't despair. And even for those who do not believe in the magic of umhluzu (gravy from cooked cow head meat believed to have aphrodisiac properties) from across the road at the taxi rank, there is a new solution for your sex nightmares. Soweto's second, but now only adult shop, G-Spot, quietly opened its doors last month and, according to its owner, sales have been swelling. G-Spot founder and owner Mmathabo Ndlovu was quick to point out though that she was not only in the business to make bumper profits but was also on a crusade to change the perceptions around the business. Ndlovu, who set up her swanky shop at the popular Irvin Khoza Centre across the road from Africa's biggest hospital, said she had been toying with the idea for many years but only had the balls to establish it this year. She said while her aim was to penetrate the township market, she...

It's not all doom and gloom for men who can't get it up. Bionic like penile implants may be the Vrrr Phah! you need. A study that for the first time included black men found that erectile dysfunction (ED) affects 2.7 million men in South Africa alone. Nicole Jennings, spokesperson for Pharma Dynamic who specialises in men's health, says in a country such as South Africa where the majority (78%) of men that are 20 years and older are black, the findings are significant. She says it's not only men over 40 who are being diagnosed but the condition affects younger men too. Dr Shingai Mutumbirwa, a urologist, says what most men who have given up on erection pills don't know is that they have various medical options available such as penile implants or what Americans refer to as the bionic penis. "The technology is not new and has been coming along since the 1970s. There are reusable vacuum erection devices which you can purchase over the counter, injectables or peni...

A loud sob cut the silence in the movie theatre, next was the quiet sound of sniffling and I also let my tears fall, feeling better that I wasn't the only one. Why all the wailing and crying? Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper had just given a stellar performance as Ally and Jackson in the critically acclaimed movie A Star is Born. The movie was emotionally disruptive, their love story was tragic but after the tears fell and I had splashed some cold water on my face I realised that their relationship was traumatic. It was the kind of relationship where one can end up feeling like a hostage. Gaga's character ended up wanting to stunt her career by refusing a tour just so she'd stay at home with Cooper's character to help him. Like she felt responsible for him. Did Big and Carrie Bradshaw, from Sex and the City franchise, have the right idea when they decided to keep her old apartment to get some time away from each other? The idea of an all-consuming love that is "perfect...

It’s that time of the year again. We’re headed to the heart of Dezemba and everything that comes with it, from that long-awaited leave to letting your out-of-office keep an eye on your inbox. And then there are the late nights, the big parties, and the over indulgence. While it may feel great to let loose,those few extra drinks could catch up with you in the bedroom, where drugs and alcohol have been shown to negatively affect sexual performance. The big-O? No According to the Mayo Clinic, alcohol has more negative effects on sexual performance in men than in woman. This is due to the physiological effects of alcohol on the penis, making it difficult for a man to obtain and sustain an erection.Alcohol causes blood vessels to widen, and affect show blood reaches the penis. It is also a diuretic— making you need to urinate more often —and can lead to dehydration. According to the Mayo Clinic, this can result in increased levels of angiotensin, which is a hormone associated with erectile ...

The orgasm, la petite morte (the little death) cumming, or whichever euphemism you want to use, is something most adults snickered about in their teenage hood and later went on to seek, some desperately so without any hope of achieving it. Many adults, mostly women, have stories about themselves or other women they know who have never experienced an orgasm or have lost their mojo. But thank goodness, the subject of women's sexual pleasure and sexual health is no longer taboo. Instead of hiding in shame, many women are now aware of various techniques and treatments to help them get there. Treatments like the O shot The O shot helps women with a low libido or those that have never experienced orgasm to have one. Important to note is that the O shot helps with one of the two types of orgasms women can have. Women can have vaginal orgasm - this is an orgasm resulting from the penis rubbing against a woman's G-spot in the interior walls of the vagina. The second is a clitoral orgasm...

Vatiswa Ndara’s open letter to minister Nathi Mthetwa inspired other actors to share their stories of exploitation. An open letter to Arts and Culture Minister Nathi Mthethwa written by actress Vatiswa Ndara has inspired other South African actors to speak out at the exploitation they have faced at the hands of local production houses and distribution channels. Ndara posted the letter on Monday morning outlining the exploitation she has suffered while working on the Ferguson Films production, iGazi, in the hopes of getting the minister to intervene in the way the entertainment industry treats and pays its talent. Ferguson Films is a production house co-owned by Connie and Shona Ferguson and it is responsible for productions such as iGazi, Rockville, The Queen, The Throne, as well as the 1Magic telenovela The River. “I come forth not as a ‘clever black’ seeking relevance, as it does not deliver a dime nor does it stand to benefit me. At the risk of public shame, humiliation, and salacio...